How Obligers Can Manage the Pros and Cons of the Tendency

Some Obligers embrace the Obliger Tendence; they see it as a virtue and a strength. For instance, many Obligers characterize their behavior as “client first”-a reason for pride. An Obliger told me decisively: “I’m there for my clients, no matter what. That gives me my edge. That’s the way I am, that’s the way I want to be, and that’s the attitude I want from the people who work for me. ” Another agreed, “I’m a great “gun for hire.” I consider my responsibilities toward the company, my colleagues, and our clients as pretty holy and definitely above and beyond my own needs.” This attitude may prevail at work and also at home. Many Obligers have told me, again with great satisfaction, “The needs of my family come first, always.” Certainly, many religious teachings emphasize the Obliger way. But while some Obligers appreciate their Tendency, it’s also true that Obligers are more likely than Upholders, Questioners, or Rebels to say that they wish they belonged to a different Tendency. Why?