Nothing is more natural than to think more of our own situation than another's. Thinking that the sun rises and sets only on us is one of the most destructive, marriage-busting character issues. Marriage cannot be successfully navigated without our giving more of ourselves than we are comfortable giving. Yet self-absorbed people often attempt to live as a single person within marriage, thinking they can get what is important to them and still pull off the relationship. The result is that the spouse feels like an object, or feels that her own thoughts and feelings aren't valued. The structure of marriage itself is anti-selfish. Marriage exposes our weaknesses and failings to the other person. It shows us the limits to our goodness. It takes away the sense that everything revolves around us. And not addressing our own egocentrism can hurt.
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