How To Build Confidence-5 Essential Pillars

Want to become a more confident leader?
Here’s what’s holding you back:

Most people think if you’re a confident person, you just always have confidence.

The reality is that confident people have confidence resilience (we’ll come back to this).

So, what exactly is confidence?

👉🏼Confidence is defined as a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities and qualities.

👉🏼In other words, confidence is the quiet inner knowledge that you’re capable & worthy of appreciation.

What does confidence look like?

If you have low confidence, you likely:
❌ Have self-doubt
❌ Believe you are inferior to others
❌ Are overly sensitive to criticism / feedback
❌ Are passive, submissive, &/or indecisive

If you have high confidence, you likely:
✅ Are open & receptive to criticism / feedback
✅ Believe you can achieve what you put effort into
✅ Are willing to volunteer for &/or lead projects & people
✅ Accept that you have strengths & opportunities for improvement

Confidence ebbs and flows. 🌊

It is not an absolute, but something you have to feed & nurture to maintain.

How? By building your confidence resilience:
1️⃣ Strengthen your self-awareness – get to know yourself to recognize when your negative thoughts & doubt creep in.
2️⃣ Master thought-flipping – flip your negative thoughts to positive ones by challenging the negative thought.
3️⃣ Catalog your confidence evidence – ask when in the past have you overcome difficult situations? Or succeeded when you thought you couldn’t?
4️⃣ Phone a friend – call a trusted friend or mentor to give you a quick pep talk!
5️⃣ Practice gratitude & self-love – thank yourself for being amazingly brilliant and uniquely-you.

Remember:
🏆Confidence is the prize you win in the battle of you vs you.
🫱🏻‍🫲🏾You were hired for a reason. Someone saw something in you.
💜Take that authority you’ve been given & lead in the best way.