How To Be Assertive Without Being An Ass

𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗶𝘀𝗸: 𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗔𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘁 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳

To live boldly, you need to let go of guilt about being assertive. You can do this by focusing on the specific details of what you’re doing, rather than worrying about how others might react.

Assertiveness is simply your natural energy free of constraints or dependency on others.

To be assertive, you need to stop seeking the approval of others and remove the limits you’ve placed on your self-expression.

Learn to let go of self-criticism. When you do, you unleash a powerful confidence that helps you tackle even the toughest challenges.

You might feel nervous about asserting yourself. You may say you want to succeed but hold back from putting in the full effort to win. This hesitation often shows up as thoughts like,

👉 “Try hard, but don’t look like you’re trying too hard,”

👉 “Don’t express your thoughts, because the boss may disagree,” or

👉 “Stay within what you know, because you may fail.”

These ideas send a subtle message that you shouldn’t declare to yourself your intention to be successful—an attitude that can undermine your willingness to act boldly and take risks. Here the best and fasted ways to assert yourself:

🔸 Start practicing assertiveness by sharing your opinions.

🔸 If you’ve seen yourself as someone who doesn’t communicate much, take a step forward by asking for more information.

🔸 Try stating your needs when you’re not getting what they want.

🔸 If someone isn’t pulling their weight, tell them you expect more.

🔸 Are you worried about offending someone? Do it anyway. You’ll find that people are often eager to hear your thoughts, and speaking up gives you the chance to move closer to the forefront.

🔸 Asking questions is one of the simplest and most effective ways to build assertiveness.

🔸 We don’t assert ourselves because we don’t want to seem like we are pushing others to our benefit. However, it is possible to play so that everyone wins—or no one wins.

🔸 Develop a win-win attitude and strategy to demonstrate cooperation rather than competition.