How Am I Really Doing

Have you ever paused to ask yourself: “How am I really doing?”

Are you thriving, feeling momentum of life, or just surviving, getting by on autopilot? Perhaps you’re struggling under the weight of challenges, or even in crisis, feeling like the ground is slipping away. These states capture the spectrum of human experience, each reflecting a different level of well-being and resilience. Let’s explore each state and understand why knowing your place on this continuum can be transformative.

Thriving: Functioning at your best, feeling engaged, fulfilled, and resilient. Your mental, emotional, and physical well-being are balanced, and you can handle challenges effectively.

Example: A person who loves their job, engages in hobbies, maintains healthy relationships, and feels a strong sense of purpose. They take setbacks in stride, learn from mistakes, and look forward to the future with optimism.

Surviving: Getting by but not flourishing. You meet basic needs and responsibilities but may feel emotionally drained or disconnected. You cope with daily demands but lack joy or motivation.

Example: An individual managing their workload but feeling exhausted and disengaged. They fulfill duties at work and home but don’t feel particularly happy or satisfied. Life feels like a series of tasks to complete rather than a journey to enjoy.

Struggling: Daily tasks feel overwhelming, and stress or emotional challenges are difficult to manage. Symptoms like anxiety or low mood may be frequent.

Example: A person facing financial stress who can’t focus at work and is withdrawing from social interactions. They experience frequent worry, poor sleep, and moments of hopelessness but continue to push through.

In Crisis: Feeling completely overwhelmed and unable to cope. This state often involves intense emotional distress, a sense of helplessness, or harmful thoughts. Immediate intervention may be needed.

Example: Someone who recently lost their job, is facing eviction, and feels isolated. They struggle to see any solutions, experience panic attacks, and may consider harmful behaviors as an escape from their current reality.

Why Understanding Your State Matters?

Self-Awareness: Identifying whether you’re thriving, surviving, struggling, or in crisis helps you recognize what support you need.

Appropriate Coping Strategies: Each state requires different responses. Thriving people may focus on maintaining balance, while those in crisis need immediate help and safety.

Preventative Action: Recognizing early signs of struggling can prevent a downward spiral. Seeking help or adjusting your lifestyle early can stop small challenges from becoming crises.

Effective Communication: Understanding your state allows you to communicate your needs clearly to others, fostering better support and connection.

By being aware of where you stand, you can better navigate life’s ups and downs, making informed decisions to enhance your well-being.