Gaslighting Vs Greenlighting

“Gaslighting” and “greenlighting” are two very different concepts, particularly in terms of their impact on relationships and personal well-being:

Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where one person makes another doubt their own perceptions, feelings, or reality. This tactic often involves dismissing someone’s thoughts or feelings, insisting things didn’t happen the way they remember, or blaming them unfairly. Over time, it can lead to self-doubt, confusion, and emotional dependence on the person doing the gaslighting. It’s harmful because it erodes trust and can severely damage the confidence and mental health of the person experiencing it.

Greenlighting

Greenlighting, though less commonly discussed, is often used to describe a positive, supportive form of communication where a person validates, encourages, and uplifts someone else’s experiences or ideas. It’s essentially the opposite of gaslighting. Greenlighting can mean actively listening, showing empathy, and reinforcing that a person’s feelings and perspectives are valid. This approach can build trust, promote self-confidence, and create a healthy, affirming environment for personal and relational growth.

Key Differences

 • Gaslighting: Undermines and dismisses, leading to confusion and self-doubt.
 • Greenlighting: Validates and encourages, fostering trust and self-confidence.

In relationships, avoiding gaslighting and instead practicing greenlighting behaviors can lead to more authentic communication and mutual support, which are essential for a healthy connection.