Emotional Wellbeing

How to develop emotional intelligence?

Sure wasn’t at school — I wasn’t great at that
But let me tell you a quick story.
As a life coach, I do 3 things with my clients.
Wanna hear them?

Let’s pretend you’re a life coach for a minute.
Ready?

1. So, imagine you’re a life coach.
You’re talking to your client — Jasmine.
Jasmine is telling you what she did yesterday.
Unfortunately, it was unproductive— you know it’s not the healthiest choice.

While Jasmine is talking, ask yourself:
→    What’s she really thinking about?
Try to figure out what she’s really thinking — not just what she’s saying.

Maybe she’s wondering:
→    Um, should I say exactly what I did?
→    Will my life coach be upset?
Got it?
Just put yourself in Jasmine’s shoes and try to guess her thoughts.

2.    Alright! You’re still a life coach.
And Jasmine is still in front of you — talking.

But this time, instead of asking yourself:
→    What is she really thinking?

Ask yourself:
→    What’s she really feeling?

You just wanna figure out how she’s feeling.

Maybe she feels a little regret for being unproductively unhealthy.
Or maybe she’s feeling some shame.
Or maybe she’s just like, “Who cares if I’m unproductive?”
Just try to get a sense of what she’s feeling.

3.    Now tell me:
→    Can you make people laugh?

Just a little laugh — nothing big.
Yes?
Great! That’s exactly what I used to do with my clients.
My goal was to make them laugh within 30 seconds of meeting them.
You know, they used to come in before work — or just after.
So their state of mind wasn’t great.

So, my goal is:
→    Empathize with them as quickly as possible
→    Get at least half a laugh out of them

Is that easy?
Nope! But practice makes perfect, right?
Give it a try!