Compliment Sandwiches

Stop using the compliment sandwich approach.

Give feedback without being a jerk:

Overloading with praise weakens the message.

Instead, use these 4 tactics by Adam Grant:

1/ Explain why you’re giving feedback
↳ Sets high expectations up front.
↳ Shows belief in their potential.
↳ Opens the door for constructive growth.

2/ Take yourself off a pedestal
↳ Remind them feedback is a two-way street.
↳ Share your own growth mindset.
↳ Position feedback as a mutual improvement tool.

3/ Ask if they want feedback
↳ Let them opt in for less defensiveness.
↳ Builds ownership over their growth.
↳ Creates openness to the conversation.

4/ Have a open dialogue, not a manipulative monologue
↳ Be upfront about your intent.
↳ Start with shared observations.
↳ Collaborate on any needed actions.

Remember, for effective feedback:

→ Avoid hiding criticism between compliments.
→ Make feedback specific and actionable.
→ Encourage growth, not just comfort.
→ Focus on the key issue to improve.
→ Balance honesty with respect.