12 Gentle Reminders to Quiet Overthinking
How to stop overthinking?
How about switching from ‘why’ to ‘how’?
Let’s try this tool:
→ Self-compassion break
It’s all about being kind to yourself.
Let me break it down into 5 simple steps.
1. When you catch yourself overthinking, just pause for a moment.
Acknowledge that you’re feeling this way.
For example, let’s say you’re feeling worried about a recent mistake at work.
Just acknowledge those feelings.
It’s the first step.
2. Now, we need to ‘connect’ with others.
What do I mean?
I mean, remind yourself that everyone struggles sometimes.
You’re not alone!
Sometimes, when we’re overthinking, we feel like we’re alone.
But that’s not true.
We’re not alone!
So, think about how your colleagues probably make mistakes too.
It’s completely normal to feel this way.
3. Now, instead of being hard on yourself, try this:
→ Say something nice to yourself.
For example, you can say:
→ “It’s okay to mess up sometimes — I’m learning.”
Imagine telling this to a friend who feels bad about their mistake.
You’d be supportive, right?
So, do the same for yourself!
P.S. Use the gentle reminders from the graphic
4. Now, after being kind to yourself, try this:
→ Close your eyes and take deep breaths
Visualize a nature spot, if you want.
(My favorite is the lake and mountains — or the desert!)
Inhale slowly through your nose.
And exhale through your mouth.
This helps calm your mind.
Picture yourself letting go of that mistake.
And imagine feeling more at ease.
5. Okay, after a minute or so, open your eyes.
It’s time to think about your next steps.
Maybe just talk to your boss about the mistake.
So you can learn from it.
Or remind yourself of your strengths.
So you can feel confident.
Whatever feels right, go for it.
Just make sure to be kind to yourself.
Sometimes, we just need a bit of self-kindness