7 Elements Of Emotional Intelligence

People with emotionally intelligent managers are 4X
less likely to leave their jobs.

But here’s what nobody tells you:

Most managers never learned these skills.

I spent 10 years studying emotional intelligence.

Here are the 7 elements that transform average managers
into great leaders:

1. Being Self-Aware
Understand your triggers and how they impact others.
When you know your blind spots, you can work on them.

2. Recognizing Emotions
Learn to read what’s not being said.
Your team speaks volumes through their actions and
energy.

3. Pausing Before Reacting
That difficult conversation or challenging email?
Give yourself time to respond, not react.

4. Showing Empathy
When someone on your team seems off, ask why.
Sometimes the best leadership move is just listening.

5. Managing Stress
Your calm during chaos matters more than your words.
Teams mirror their leader’s energy.

6. Motivating Yourself
The voice in your head sets the tone for your team.
Make it one that inspires growth, not fear.

7. Building Relationships
Trust isn’t built in big moments.
It’s built in small interactions, day after day.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

Technical skills might get you the position, but EQ helps
you keep your best people.

The good news?

These skills can be learned. They can be practiced.
They can transform your leadership.

I wish someone had taught me this 20 years ago.

Your team deserves a leader who gets it.