The Guilt-Tripper The Ultimate Self-Love-Page

How can you deal with The Guilt-Tripper?

Here are 4 tactics to deal with them:

1.    They play on your emotions to make you feel guilty, right?
So set your boundaries.
Why?
Because it helps to let them know what you’re willing and unwilling to accept.

For example you can say:
→    “Listen, with all honesty, I can’t handle that guilt. Let’s figure out a solution together.”

2.    They have a victim stance, right?
Do you know why?
Well, because they want to make you feel responsible for their wellbeing.
But you’re not, are you?
So express empathy and firmness at the same time.
Why?

Because:
→    by showing empathy, you make them realize you’ve understood their feelings.
→    by showing firmness, you make them realize you’re not responsible – they are responsible.

For example you can say:
→    “I get it, this matters to you, and I need to prioritize my wellbeing.”

3.    They use the “silent treatment,” right?
Are you asking yourself what the silent treatment is?
Well, it’s when they ignore or avoid communication.
“Uhm, and why do they do that?”
Simple, because they want to make you feel guilty or anxious.
And we don’t want that, right?
Great! So turn the focus back!

“What do you mean?”

I mean this:
→    Try steering the conversation toward finding a positive solution.
Why?

Because it helps shift the focus from guilt and manipulation to “problem-solving”.
For example you can say:
→    “I hear you, and let’s chat about how we both can make things better.”

4.    They only show love or approval when you live up to their expectations.
Did I guess right?
Well, anticipate the problem by showing you’re an autonomous person.
In simple terms, let them know you can feel good without them.

Now the question is:
→    “How?”

By affirming your personal decisions.
Why?

Because when you affirm your decisions:
→    You let them know you’re autonomous.
→    You let them know you’re independent.
→    You let them know you’ve thoughtfully considered your choices.

Meaning their tactics won’t change your decisions.

For example you can say:
→    “I get your feeling, and after thinking, I believe this is best for me…”