Loneliness-The Ultimate One Page Care
How can you shake off loneliness?
Here’s the tool my friend used:
→ 15-Minute Connection
A couple of years ago he had to face a breakup.
So I gave him a piece of advice.
That piece of advice became the method I’m gonna share with you.
We’re gonna follow 6 steps.
1. Take your journal
2. Make a list of people who mean a lot to you.
For example:
→ Your dad
→ Your mom
→ Your sister
→ Your friend
→ Your cousin
→ Your colleague
3. Now take your agenda and do this:
→ Set a “15-Minute Connection” slot for each day of the week.
This slot could be:
→ Before work
→ During a break at work
→ After lunch
→ After work
→ In the evening
→ Before bedtime
It doesn’t matter when.
The important thing is to set a 15-minute slot for each day of the week.
4. Now decide whom you want to connect with next week.
For example:
→ Monday: Aisha
→ Tuesday: Lukas
→ Wednesday: Jasmine
→ …
After that, name your slots in your agenda
So:
→ 15-Minute Connection with Aisha
→ 15-Minute Connection with Lukas
→ 15-Minute Connection with Jasmine
5. Decide how you want to connect with them.
For example:
→ In person (physically)
→ Via phone call
→ Via video call
In person would be perfect, but it’s not always possible.
6. When you connect with them, be sure to respect these five points:
→ Try to be as present as possible.
→ Remove any distractions, like TV, phone, notifications…
→ Appreciate them so they will enjoy spending more time with you.
→ Share your daily/weekly experiences, your thoughts and your feelings.
→ Show real interest in their life by “listening” to their thoughts and feelings.
Humble advice:
→ Write down this list and read it one minute before connecting with them.
That’s how a close friend of mine has driven away loneliness.
I really hope it can help you.
And let’s remember:
Loneliness doesn’t mean you’re a failure.
Loneliness doesn’t mean you’re unsociable.
Loneliness doesn’t mean you’re a weak person.
Loneliness is just your heart telling you:
→ Hey, we’re craving connection here!