How To Handle Criticism Without Letting It Bring You Down
How do you handle criticism?
And how do you keep it from getting you down?
Here’s a tool for you:
→ The Fogging Technique
Let’s see how you can use it.
1. So, imagine someone who frequently tells you:
→ You’re so lazy!
→ You’re too quiet!
→ You never listen!
→ You’re too sensitive!
→ You’re so disorganized!
→ You’re not good enough!
Ever heard something like that before?
No worries — you’re not alone.
But it’s not fine hearing that voice, right?
2. So, when you hear that voice, do this:
→ Imagine being a fog
I mean this:
→ When someone criticizes, try to absorb that criticism without letting it disturb your peace.
Let’s see an example of how Aisha responds to Clark’s criticism:
🧔🏻 You are lazy!
👳🏾♀️ Yes, sometimes I take it easy.
🧔🏻 You’re too quiet!
👳🏾♀️ Yes, I tend to be quiet in certain situations.
🧔🏻 You never listen!
👳🏾♀️ Yes, I understand I should listen more attentively.
🧔🏻 You’re too sensitive!
👳🏾♀️ Yes, I can be sensitive at times.
🧔🏻 You’re so disorganized!
👳🏾♀️ Yes, I admit I can be disorganized sometimes.
🧔🏻 You’re not good enough!
👳🏾♀️ Yes, I acknowledge I have room to improve.
You know what?
I’m really proud of Aisha!
I’m rooting for her!
3. Now your question is:
→ Okay, but what happens next?
Well, the criticisms are not unlimited, right?
At some point Clark will run out of cartridges.
And when the cartridges really run out, Clark will give up.
This is how you can handle criticism without letting it bring you down.
Especially with those people who keep criticizing you repeatedly.
The important thing is acting like Aisha:
→ with respect
→ with elegance
→ and with conviction
And remember: you deserve respect!