How Are You Feeling
How to cultivate emotional intelligence?
Sometimes we feel weird because we don’t know what we’re feeling.
Here’s a simple exercise to practice regularly, so we can:
→ Better understand our feelings
→ Become more emotionally intelligent
1. First, find a quiet spot where you can sit comfortably.
Close your eyes for a moment.
And take a deep breath.
2. Alright, now ask yourself:
→ How am I feeling right now?
Think about your emotions without judging them.
Look at this scale and pick a number that feels right:
0 = HAPPY
→ I’m feeling great and enjoying life
→ Everything is going well, and I have a positive outlook
1 = CALM
→ I’m feeling relaxed and at ease
→ There’s a sense of peace in my mind, and I can take my time
2 = SAD
→ I’m feeling down or bummed out
→ Something’s bothering me, and I’m not as cheerful as usual
3 = WORRIED
→ I’m feeling anxious about something
→ I keep thinking about what might go wrong, and it’s making me uneasy
4 = FRUSTRATED
→ I’m feeling annoyed because things aren’t going my way
→ I’m facing challenges that are getting on my nerves
5 = ANGRY
→ I’m feeling really mad or upset
→ Something has happened that frustrates me, and I want to express my feelings
You just need to pick the number that feels right.
3. Okay, now what?
Now ask yourself:
→ Why am I feeling this way?
→ What just happened?
→ Are there specific thoughts or events affecting me?
Just reflect on the emotions you’re feeling.
4. Now do this:
→ Grab a piece of paper or your phone
→ Jot down your number and a few notes about why you chose it
This can help clarify your feelings.
Plus, if you feel comfortable, share your feelings with someone you trust.
You can say something like:
→ “I’m feeling 3 (worried) today because I have a lot on my mind”
Just share your feelings without judgment.
As we know, it’s all about practice.
And let’s remember:
→ There’s no reason to feel weird about talking about our emotions
We’re human — emotions are our daily bread