Forgiveness-I let Go Of Resentment by..
How to move past resentment?
Getting over resentment isn’t easy.
Especially when it feels like the other person doesn’t even care.
Right?
Here’s a simple exercise to help with forgiveness.
1. To start, take a few deep breaths.
Think about the situation or person causing your resentment.
Ask yourself:
→ What specific emotions am I feeling about this?
For example, let’s say a colleague took credit for your project.
And now you’re feeling resentful.
You’re probably feeling emotions like:
→ Anger
→ Betrayal
→ Or frustration
Just write these down.
It helps you gain clarity on your current emotions.
2. Now, reflect on what you expected from this person or situation.
Ask yourself:
→ Were my expectations realistic?
For example, you might have expected recognition in team meetings.
And now, after reflecting, you realize:
→ Not everyone notices the details of each project!
Right?
So, jot down any expectations you had.
Then, consider whether they were fair.
P.S. That’s why not having expectations is always a smart move
3. Now, think about what boundaries you need.
You know, just to protect your emotional wellbeing.
Ask yourself:
→ What boundary can I set to help me feel safer moving forward?
For example:
→ I’ll clearly communicate my contributions in meetings
4. Now, if the situation allows, do this:
→ Imagine having a conversation with the person involved
Think about what you’d wanna say.
And how you’d like to hear their side.
Ask yourself:
→ What do I need to understand about their perspective?
You might want to know if your colleagues noticed your contributions.
Or if it was an oversight.
Write down one thing you’d like to hear from them, like:
→ I’d like to know if you realize the impact of my work on the project.
5. Finally, take a moment to be still.
Close your eyes and focus on your breath for a few minutes.
Allow any thoughts to come and go without judgment.
Why?
Because it’ll help you process what you’ve reflected on.
Self-reflection and forgiveness go hand in hand, right?