Warning Signs Of Toxic People -The Passive Aggressive

How can you deal with The Passive-Aggressive?

Here are 5 tactics (with examples):

1.    First off, you need to communicate with them directly.
Why?
Because they’re specialists in “Indirect communication”.
If they can avoid addressing issues directly, they will.

So use phrases like these:
→    “Listen, I’ve noticed some tension recently. Can we talk openly about what’s bothering you? I’m here to understand.”
→    “Hey, I’ll be honest with you. I’ve sensed some unease lately. Can we chat about what’s been bothering you?”

2.    They’re not clear with their communication with you, right?
And sometimes they use strategic silence, correct?
So, set clear expectations about that topic.
How?

By saying something like this:
→    “Let’s do this: let’s make sure we’re clear on expectations – just to avoid any misunderstanding.”
→    “I feel we need to establish clear expectations – just to respect each other. Tell me, what do you need from me?”

3.    They make you feel guilty, right?
And they make you feel bad about your actions, don’t they?
So, let them know their communication with you is not okay.
How?
By talking about their behaviors – not intentions!

For example you can say:
→    “I’ve seen some things that make communication tricky. Wanna chat about how we can communicate better?”
→    “Listen, I’ve observed certain behaviors that make communication challenging. Can we chat about how we can work better together?”

4.    They use sarcasm and mockery with you, right?
“Yes, sometimes far too much!”
Exactly! So, when they’re about to cross the line, seek clarification immediately.
And be direct with your communication!
Don’t let them say “No no, nothing”.
You want clarification, okay?
Otherwise they won’t change.

So use phrases like these:
→    “Uhm, can you help me understand if there’s something specific on your mind? Just to clarify.”
→    “I’ve picked up on a change in our communication. Could you let me know if there’s something particular on your mind? I don’t think I understand.”

5.    When you try to confront them, they act innocent, right?
And they deny any wrongdoing, making it hard for you to address the problem. Correct?
Well, when that happens, establish consequences immediately.
How?

By saying something like this:
→    “You know what, let’s keep things positive between us. If these vibes stick around, you know, it could get tricky… What can we do to avoid that?”
→    “Hey, I want us to stay positive together. If these vibes linger, it might get a bit tricky. How can we steer clear of that?”