The Narcissist-Your Ultimate One Page Code

How do you deal with The Narcissist?
Here are 5 tactics (with examples):

1. When you feel a bit under pressure, show your individuality.
Why?
Because they try to smother it.

So use phrases like:
→    “I value your perspective, but I also need the freedom to make choices that are right for me, you know?”
→    “I get where you’re coming from, but I also need to do what’s best for me, you know? Gotta make choices that feel right for myself.”

2.    When you receive criticism, deviate from it.
Why?
Because otherwise they won’t realize it wasn’t good.

So use phrases like:
→    “I appreciate feedback, and you know that, but constant criticism isn’t helpful for our relationship, right?”
→    “I’m cool with getting feedback that helps, but always pointing out stuff I’m doing wrong? Not so cool. What do you think?”

3.    When they try to control you, let them know you’re independent.
Why?
Because they want to control your actions.

So use phrases like:
→    “I’m capable of making decisions for myself. I’ll come to you if I need advice, okay?”
→    “I got this. I’ll hit you up if I need some advice, alright?”

4.    When they throw their issues on you, set boundaries immediately.
Why?
Because they want you to believe it’s all your fault.

So use phrases like:
→    “I can support you, 100%, and I also need to focus on my own wellbeing. You know that.”
→    “I’ve got your back, no problems, but I also gotta look out for myself, you know?”

5.    When they make you feel guilty, refuse that trap.
Why?
Because 99% of the time it’s not your fault!

So use phrases like:
→    “Sorry, I won’t let guilt influence my choices. Let’s have a healthy conversation instead, okay?”
→    “I’m not letting guilt mess with my actions. Let’s just chat it out, okay?”