Self-Esteem – I Let Go Of This

How can you boost your self-esteem?

Here are 6 steps:

1.    Take your journal

2.    On the first empty page write this as a title:
→    “Things I can’t control”.

Now turn the page and write this as a title:
→    “Things I can control”.

3.    Okay, now you have two blank pages with two titles, right?
Great! Now let’s focus on the first page.
Let’s start with the things you can’t control in your life.

Ask yourself this question:
→    What things can’t I control in my life?

Take all the time you need and make a list of things you can’t control.

For example:
✖️   The mood of others
✖️   The behavior of others
✖️   If others believe in me
✖️   If others appreciate me
✖️   What others think of me
✖️   What others say about me
✖️   What others expect from me
✖️   If others have healthy values
✖️   If others accept my uniqueness
✖️   If others respect the environment

Okay? Are you with me?
You just need to list the things you know you can’t control.

4.    Now let’s turn the page.
Oh, this page is gonna make us more responsible, right?

Well, start by asking yourself this question:
→    What things can I actually control in my life?
As you’ve just done on the first page, list all the things you can control.

For example:
✔️    Forgiving myself
✔️    Accepting myself
✔️    How I describe myself
✔️    Deciding to love myself
✔️    How I react to negativity
✔️    Taking care of my wellbeing
✔️    Being kind to myself and others
✔️    Getting away from negative people

5.    Okay! Now we have two full pages.
Great lists, right?
Now let’s focus again on the first page.
“Uhm, the page with the things beyond my control?”

Exactly, that one!

What you need to do is this:
→    Accept the fact you can’t influence those things.

It makes no sense to focus on those things.
We can’t control them, right?
And guess what happens when we try to control them?

“Uhm… well, we feel bad…”
Exactly! So let’s stop focusing on those things.
Instead, what we can do is…
“Uhm, focusing on the things we can control?”
Bingo!
Let’s turn the page now.

6.    Great! This second page is rich in responsibility.
And as we know, responsibility leads to happiness, right?

So do this:
→    Pick 3 of those things you can control
→    Set a small goal to improve them

For example, imagine you’ve picked this:
✔️    Accepting myself
What you need to do is just set a small goal for that thing.
For example:
✔️    For the next 30 days, I want to practice Gratitude Mindfulness every day at 6:30 AM, before breakfast.