5 Types of Narcissist
How can you stop being a narcissist?
Here are 5 steps:
1. Take your Calendar.
Set aside a 10-minute slot each day.
It’s gonna be your “reflection slot”.
2. Now your question is:
→ What do I need to reflect on, Matty?
Well, you’re gonna reflect on your interactions with others.
In short, every day you’ll do this:
→ Take your journal
→ Write down specific interactions where there were some “problems”.
For example you can write:
→ Today, during a team meeting, I noticed myself dominating the conversation without fully listening to Chloe.
3. Now that you’ve written your daily interaction, do this:
→ Describe your emotions and feelings during that interaction.
→ Describe Chloe’s emotions and feelings during that interaction (from your point of view)
For example you can say:
→ In the meeting, I felt a bit anxious because I wanted to impress others with my idea.
→ I also noticed that Chloe seemed frustrated while I was talking.
4. Now it’s time to put ourselves in Chloe’s shoes.
I mean this:
→ Take a moment and put yourself in Chloe’s shoes.
Ask yourself:
→ What am I feeling now that I’m Chloe? (from Chloe’s point of view)
After asking yourself this question, write down the answer.
For example you can write (from Chloe’s point of view):
→ “I felt dismissed, not heard, and undervalued!”
5. Now let’s come back in our shoes.
Ask yourself:
→ Based on my previous reflections, what was the impact of my behavior on Chloe’s wellbeing?
For example you can write:
→ My behavior made Chloe feel unheard, and maybe she won’t be willing to share her ideas in the future with me.
This is how you can cultivate empathy for others and stop acting as a narcissist.
As we know, every improvement starts with self-awareness.
The number 1 problem with narcissism is the lack of awareness.
Many people aren’t aware of their behavior.
So, first, congrats for being here.
And second, don’t forget to seek feedback.
There is no better way to be aware of our behavior than by asking for feedback and being, finally, a bit more vulnerable.
Vulnerability is a strength, right?
So now the question is: Are you willing to try this daily exercise?
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